looking for a boyfriend? think you ready for marriage?
'A piece of advice:
" Ruth waited for Boaz."
While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, DO NOT settle for any of his relatives…… Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, Goodfornothingaz, Lazyaz, and especially his third cousin Beatinyouaz.
Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz….’
The best thing you can do when you feel attracted to a guy is to immediately give your feelings to God: Lord, I thank You for the qualities I see in this guy. Please take my emotions and guard them. Enable me to keep my heart protected for my future husband. If it is Your desire that I enter a relationship with this guy, then I leave the details in Your hands. May I not manipulate or grow impatient, but allow You to remain in control. You will be faithful. You care more about this area of my life than I even do.
The guy you are attracted to might seem like the only warrior-poet in existence, and you might not be able to imagine living life without him. But the reality is that if he is not the one God wants you to marry, then the guy He has chosen for you will fit your life even more perfectly, and what you esteem in him will be even more than what you see in this guy. Don’t allow your emotions to lead the way—take a step back and surrender them afresh to your loving Father. When your heart is fully yielded to Christ, you will be far more able to discern between His voice and the voice of your own desires.
Guard Your Thought Life.
Many young women struggle with keeping their thoughts upon Christ—especially when there is a guy in their life whom they are attracted. When you see an attractive and Christ-like guy, it’s tempting to let your mind continually dwell on him and get carried away with imaginations, desires and fantasies about him. Even a Christ-built warrior-poet can claim an unhealthy hold on your thought life if you are not guarded and purposeful about “taking every thought captive.” It’s not wrong to notice or think about a guy’s good qualities, but to continually dwell on him day and night is not God’s best for your mind, heart or emotions. Ask God to enable you to keep your thoughts on Jesus Christ—not on a guy.
Memorising and meditating upon Scripture is another excellent way to center your thoughts on Jesus Christ. Remember, Christ is the “Word of God made flesh” so when you dwell on Scripture, you are dwelling on Him. At first, it might feel mechanical to memorise verses and recite them in your mind to ward off distracting thoughts about a guy. However, you will find that after you get into the habit of doing it, it becomes life-giving and refreshing. When the trust is in the forefront of your mind, you are far less likely to allow your emotions to carry you away and into a path of error.
Don’t Act Differently Around Him.
When you are attracted to a guy, it’s easy to allow emotions to change the way you act around him. Whether you go out of your way to be around him, ignore other people to talk to him, or change your behaviour to get him to notice you, attraction can quickly morph into manipulation. Rather than trusting God to open up a relationship if and when He desires, you might feel the urgent need to take the situation in your own hands and make something happen. A great promise to remember during times like this is Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Your faithful King knows your longing, dream and desire within your heart. If you leave the pen in His hands, He will be more faithful to script the story in His own perfect way—not only meeting the desires of your heart, but going exceedingly and abundantly beyond all you could ask or think. Taking matters into your own hands will only diminish the beautiful work of God in your life. Ask Him for the grace to remain trusting and yielded—no matter how strong your feelings toward the guy might be. Let the Spirit of God guide your actions and convict you of any change in behavior that you’ve allowed because of your own impatience or fear that you might “miss your chance.” He will be more than faithful if you simply give Him the chance to be who He says He is. As Psalm 34 declares:
O taste and see that the LORD is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him. O fear the LORD, ye his saints: for there is no want to them that fear him. The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the LORD shall not want any good thing. (v 8-10)
These are not just poetic words, they are the very words of God to you, His precious daughter. Ask Him for the grace to trust Him with all your heart, especially in the area of your life, and you will not be disappointed. He is faithful!
(True) Christian guys dont care about your hair being perfect. We don’t care if you shop at Urban Outfitters, or Hollister. We don’t care if you have big boobs, or a tight butt. We don’t care if you’re popular, or if you can text from the time you wake up, to the time you can go to sleep. Let me tell you what we do care about. We care about your heart. We care most when you treat everyone you meet with love. We care about authenticity. We care about your raging passion for God. We find you most attractive when you’re praising your guts out. You’re hot as crap, when you’re praying for the lost. And we love when you pour your love for Christ into us. Take note, because like you, we are praying that God sends us the right one too. Wurd.
Isn't It... Funny how a $20.00 bill looks so big when you take it to church, but so small when you take it to the mall. Funny how big an hour serving God looks and how small 60 minutes are when spent watching television, playing sports, sleeping or taking a lunch break. Funny how long a couple of hours spent at church are but how short they are when watching a good movie. Funny how we get thrilled when a football game goes into overtime, but we complain when a sermon is longer than the regular time. Funny how laborious it is to read a chapter in the Bible and how easy it is to read 200-300 pages of a best selling novel. Funny how we believe what newspapers say, but question what the Bible says. Funny how people scramble to get a front seat at a concert, but scramble to get a back seat at the church service. Funny how we cannot fit a gospel meeting into our schedule with our yearly planner but we can schedule for other events at a moment's notice. Funny how we look forward to that big date on Friday night, but complain about getting up for church on Sunday morning. Funny how we are rarely late to work, but always late to church. Funny how we call God our Father and Jesus our brother, but find it hard to introduce them to our family. Funny how small our sins seem, but how big their sins are. Funny how we demand justice for others, but expect mercy from God. Funny how much difficulty some have learning the gospel well enough to tell others, but how simple it is to understand and explain the latest gossip about someone else. Funny how we can't think of anything to say when we pray, but don't have any difficulty thinking of things to talk about to a friend. Funny how we are so quick to take directions from a total stranger when we are lost, but are hesitant to take God's direction for our lives. Funny how so many church goers sing "Standing on the Promises" but all they do is sit on the premises. Funny how people want God to answer their prayers, but refuse to listen to His counsel. Funny how we sing about heaven, but live only for today. Funny how people think they are going to Heaven but don't think there is a Hell. Funny how it is okay to blame God for evil and suffering in the world, but it is not necessary to thank Him for what is good and pleasant. Funny how when something goes wrong, we cry, "Lord, why me?" but when something goes right, we think, "Hey, it must be me!" ...Or wait...maybe all this isn't so "funny" after all.
Everyone longs to give themselves to someone— to have a deep soul relationship with another— to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But to a Christian, God says, “No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled, and …content with being loved by Me alone— with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me”. I love you, my child. And until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with Me— exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing and allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing— a plan you cannot imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow Me to bring it to you. You just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things— keep experiencing the satisfaction that I am. Keep listening and learning the things I tell you. You just wait. That’s all. Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look at the things others have gotten or I have given them. Don’t look at the things you want. You just keep looking off and away up to Me, or you’ll miss what I want to show you. Then, when you are ready, I’ll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would even dream of. You see, until you are ready, and until the one I have for you is ready at the same time— until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I have prepared for you— you won’t be able to experience the love exemplified in you relationship with Me, and is thus, perfect love. And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love I offer you with, Myself. Know that I love you utterly. I am God. Believe it, and be satisfied.” -Author Unknown
In my pursuit of liking things a whole lot less I bumped into this Bible verse: “Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business” yes this verse tells me to MIND MY OWN BUSINESS and that is exactly what I WILL be doing from here on.
So folks kindly keep your news to yourselves. I’m done with liking news…. :)
A few hours before I turn 20
Want to sleep
Want to stay awake and watch as time ticks by
Feel like I’m aging
Excited to be leaving the teenagehood
*sigh* no I’m not!!!!
Ahhh soon I’ll be 21 then 41 thens late
I’m Zintle Mvinjelwa, i’m 19 and 11 months, a second year student and this is my VERY FIRST written entry. I have never been a writer nor were my essays particularly great whilst in high school infect I have an ugly hand writing, terrible spelling as well as life-threateningly bad grammar skills. But after reading Amanda Sevasti’s blog titled “30 Things I Know At 30” I realised there is more to this life than living inside your comfort box. I’ll be turning 20 in a few weeks…so i am getting rid of the box as i enter my 20’s.
Here goes something titled …… 20-Thoughts
1.God loves you. “God so loved the world…” John 3:16
2.Be faithful- do EVERYTHING faithfully. Study, love, work, just be.
3.Don’t complicate your life.
4.Never put yourself above others and do to them as you’d like them to do to you
5.People will misunderstand you. Continue striving to be unambiguous and few will get your drift.
6.Keep a sisterhood. #SISTERHOOD/brotherhood-haha
7.Life’s challenges are challenging. Prepare for rainy days.
8.Music is amazing. It changes any mood_just like that.
9.Do not believe everything you are told. There are some sneaky liars out there.
10.Mom does it all out of love. Don’t disappoint her.
11.Men are cowards. YES i said it.
12.Don’t change for anybody. Imagine changing something about yourself every time someone comes along and wants something changed in you.
13.Feeling sorry for yourself is a waste of resources. STOP IT
14.Keep your mouth shut.
15.Do take responsibility for your actions. You are not 8 anymore.
16.“Going on a diet” means nothing if your diet lasts 3 days.
17.Hard work does pay and proper plan prevents poor performance.
18.Be kind to yourself. Have a “doing me” attitude from time to time.
19.Give. Give cheerfully; give to the needy, give to the fulfilled, give to your friends and to family too.